How Can Julie Stop Overeating at Dinner Parties?

by | Sep 1, 2016



Julie came to me with a mystery. Her eating habits are excellent at home and even in restaurants, but when she gets into a dinner party situation it doesn’t matter what food is served or how hungry she is, she turns into a mindless eating machine.

What could be going on here?

We first explored whether she was actually satisfied with her normal eating routine. Is it possible she was still restricting herself too much and experiencing the What-the-Hell Effect at parties? This didn’t seem to be the case, as Julie had already explored and tested this hypothesis using her foodist mindset.

Ultimately we uncovered a subconscious cue that was triggering her overeating. This revelation helped Julie feel much more at ease and in control of the situation, knowing it was something that was solvable.

Julie’s case is particularly interesting because she is triggered by positive emotions rather than negative emotions, which are more often the cause of overeating. Armed with this knowledge we came up with a strategy for channeling her feelings in a way that is more aligned with her current values.

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5 Responses to “How Can Julie Stop Overeating at Dinner Parties?”

  1. Emily says:

    Welcome back, Darya!

  2. Amanda says:

    Welcome back, Darya! I’m so pleased for you that you took the time you needed to heal and allow yourself to get back to a place where you were ready to miss it and come back to it. Also, this was a great episode. It resonated strongly with me – listening to Julie’s issue had me thinking ‘yes! Me too!’ So interesting to hear the reasoning behind why this was happening for her.

  3. says:

    thank for great article

  4. Tara says:

    I just listened to this podcast (twice, in fact), and felt compelled to leave a comment. First, because I related to Julie’s story so much that I had a major breakthrough. And secondly because I think you might be particularly touched by a component of my ah-ha moment as it relates to the death of a parent. (I’m very sorry for your loss and was glad to hear that you took the time you needed for yourself!)

    In the 15 months since my mother died, a lot of my wonderful Foodist type habits went by the wayside, and I’ve gained almost 40 pounds. I was compassionate with myself…telling myself that part of it was grief, or just the desire to not have to be disciplined and do whatever I wanted after 10 years of being her caregiver.

    I think all that was true, and what Julie’s story helped me see, was that I have the same association she has with friends/special times and food (i.e., it’s time to binge, no restraints, and do it fast before anyone else can have the last bite).

    There is also an additional component that Julie’s story helped me see that relates to my mother. She and I were very, very close…and we often bonded over food. We would have a meal at a restaurant or a treat (not small!) to celebrate any little occasion or just to get out of the house, which was not always pleasant to be around. So, in addition, to associating dining out (or food, in general) with special times with loved ones, eating in this way allowed me to connect to her and her memory.

    Like Julie, now that I have this realization, I feel a lot lighter…and can have compassion for myself rather than beating myself up for not having control of it. Now that I’m aware, I can also reframe eating (out or in) with loved ones and hope to savor the connections and the food without over-eating.

    Thank you!!

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